Comments on: Intolerant Me http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/ Fri, 21 Nov 2008 15:02:06 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 By: Beth http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2515 Beth Wed, 14 May 2008 18:23:44 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2515 blog on!! you're not lame for it. People who have insecurities about themselves, will pick apart other people, to make themselves feel better. Their targets are always the more reserved (quite) people, because they know they'll do more damage to their complex. Most of the time, it's because they are envious of the person they try to break down...so, you are envied ^^ <strong>Vera: I doubt they're envious... although funnily enough I believe the person who did criticize me having a blog is now obsessed with it (gotta love statcounter). I've yet to decide if this is hilarious, or creepy. </strong>:rolleyes: blog on!! you’re not lame for it. People who have insecurities about themselves, will pick apart other people, to make themselves feel better. Their targets are always the more reserved (quite) people, because they know they’ll do more damage to their complex. Most of the time, it’s because they are envious of the person they try to break down…so, you are envied ^^

Vera: I doubt they’re envious… although funnily enough I believe the person who did criticize me having a blog is now obsessed with it (gotta love statcounter). I’ve yet to decide if this is hilarious, or creepy. :rolleyes:

]]> By: Brenda http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2480 Brenda Fri, 02 May 2008 17:48:15 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2480 I used to be a homophobic - although I didn't really express it all that much. However, I've opened myself a lot more now after having entered university two years ago and I gues I've become far more accepting than I used to. And what's so lame about having a blog? :( It's a far better (and more productive) pasttime than smoking! :P <strong>Vera: we-ell... on the other hand, if everyone agreed with me I'd have nothing to blog about</strong> ;) I used to be a homophobic - although I didn’t really express it all that much. However, I’ve opened myself a lot more now after having entered university two years ago and I gues I’ve become far more accepting than I used to.

And what’s so lame about having a blog? :( It’s a far better (and more productive) pasttime than smoking! :P

Vera: we-ell… on the other hand, if everyone agreed with me I’d have nothing to blog about ;)

]]> By: Stepherz http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2476 Stepherz Mon, 28 Apr 2008 05:57:26 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2476 You know... there's a lot of lame people in the world. Totally proud to be one of them! <strong>Vera: :lol: oh I'm quite lame myself, as proven by this blog entry, for example.</strong> You know… there’s a lot of lame people in the world. Totally proud to be one of them!

Vera: :lol: oh I’m quite lame myself, as proven by this blog entry, for example.

]]> By: Kimm http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2475 Kimm Fri, 25 Apr 2008 22:25:59 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2475 If people don't like you for who YOU are then they aren't worth your time of day. <strong>Vera: oh I know that... but some things are just not that easily categorized as black and/or white.</strong> :) If people don’t like you for who YOU are then they aren’t worth your time of day.

Vera: oh I know that… but some things are just not that easily categorized as black and/or white. :)

]]> By: Ashley http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2474 Ashley Fri, 25 Apr 2008 07:13:07 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2474 I actually agree with what you wrote on Delicatepearls site. I left her a comment on both her site and the place your inspired comment came from. <strong>Vera: good to know. </strong> I actually agree with what you wrote on Delicatepearls site. I left her a comment on both her site and the place your inspired comment came from.

Vera: good to know.

]]> By: Mariah http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2473 Mariah Fri, 25 Apr 2008 07:04:35 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2473 I can see your point about how I jumped to conclusions, and accused you of that, and I'm sorry. I just didn't want to get on anyone's bad side, and hopefully, we can let it go, and I will forget it. Well, I'm glad to hear that you will not be blogging about me or my website. No, I don't know you, but opinions about my website are helpful, they can guide me to tutorials or articles that can help me and my website. I guess the people were either hurt, or embarrassed, a couple only closed for a few months, to wait for the articles to die down, which is what I would have done, if you blogged about me. I would just need that time to figure out what I was going to do with the site, and straighten things out, and what ever it was that they saw wrong, I would try and fix it. I would never(hopefully) get driven to the point where I wanted to close forever. I mean, don't get me wrong, Jem has helped people, and they straightened they're websites out. I just didn't want my website to be blogged about by someone, and than have people commenting, and saying how ridiculous my website is, like most of the people do when she blogs about a website. I know that my website is way different compared to yours, and I'm learning, I've only been into web-designing for a few years, and I am only learning most of the ropes now that I have my own domain, and I can experiment with different things. Anyway, in a nut shell, I'm sorry about everything, and hopefully, we can leave it at that. I just don't want people to be not liking me, basically because of a misunderstanding. <strong>Vera: I'm not (and wasn't before either) angry. I simply asked you a question through your Q&A form.</strong> I can see your point about how I jumped to conclusions, and accused you of that, and I’m sorry. I just didn’t want to get on anyone’s bad side, and hopefully, we can let it go, and I will forget it.

Well, I’m glad to hear that you will not be blogging about me or my website.

No, I don’t know you, but opinions about my website are helpful, they can guide me to tutorials or articles that can help me and my website.

I guess the people were either hurt, or embarrassed, a couple only closed for a few months, to wait for the articles to die down, which is what I would have done, if you blogged about me. I would just need that time to figure out what I was going to do with the site, and straighten things out, and what ever it was that they saw wrong, I would try and fix it. I would never(hopefully) get driven to the point where I wanted to close forever.

I mean, don’t get me wrong, Jem has helped people, and they straightened they’re websites out. I just didn’t want my website to be blogged about by someone, and than have people commenting, and saying how ridiculous my website is, like most of the people do when she blogs about a website. I know that my website is way different compared to yours, and I’m learning, I’ve only been into web-designing for a few years, and I am only learning most of the ropes now that I have my own domain, and I can experiment with different things.

Anyway, in a nut shell, I’m sorry about everything, and hopefully, we can leave it at that. I just don’t want people to be not liking me, basically because of a misunderstanding.

Vera: I’m not (and wasn’t before either) angry. I simply asked you a question through your Q&A form.

]]> By: Kimmie http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2471 Kimmie Thu, 24 Apr 2008 14:16:36 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2471 Smoking just so you can fit in... brilliant! What a great idea. Then, in 40 years from now, you can chill in the long term hospital wing with your tanks of oxygen just so you can fit into that crowd too. Sadly, there will always be stupid people. However, realize that you are an incredibly intelligent person that I respect. Your measure of common sense need not match those who cannot think things through logically. <strong>Vera: Thanks. The feeling is entirely mutual (you're on my list of links, after all ;) ) I was so shocked when I got told that. If it hadn't been extremely rude, I'd have asked the person if she had gone completely bonkers.</strong> :fist: Smoking just so you can fit in… brilliant! What a great idea. Then, in 40 years from now, you can chill in the long term hospital wing with your tanks of oxygen just so you can fit into that crowd too. Sadly, there will always be stupid people. However, realize that you are an incredibly intelligent person that I respect. Your measure of common sense need not match those who cannot think things through logically.

Vera: Thanks. The feeling is entirely mutual (you’re on my list of links, after all ;) )
I was so shocked when I got told that. If it hadn’t been extremely rude, I’d have asked the person if she had gone completely bonkers. :fist:

]]> By: Holly http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2470 Holly Wed, 23 Apr 2008 10:50:17 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2470 I agree with Jem. I don't think there's anything necessarily wrong with being conservative, so long as it doesn't turn into bigoted-ness and cause you to behave in a way that is offensive to other people. Other than that, I'm not sure what I think!? <strong>Vera: I'm not conservative, quite the contrary. But I also try to act in a way that doesn't bother others.</strong> I agree with Jem. I don’t think there’s anything necessarily wrong with being conservative, so long as it doesn’t turn into bigoted-ness and cause you to behave in a way that is offensive to other people.
Other than that, I’m not sure what I think!?

Vera: I’m not conservative, quite the contrary. But I also try to act in a way that doesn’t bother others.

]]> By: Jem http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2469 Jem Wed, 23 Apr 2008 09:46:44 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2469 There's no point trying to change who you are for the sake of someone else just because that someone else cannot see things your way. That path only leads to unhappiness, and you will eventually revert back to your 'true' self anyway. Learn to suck it up and move on, is the best answer I've got. <strong>Vera: yes of course, but when you see more and more people adopting the same stance, you invariably end up wondering if it's not you who's fighting a losing battle, so to speak.</strong> :hmm: There’s no point trying to change who you are for the sake of someone else just because that someone else cannot see things your way. That path only leads to unhappiness, and you will eventually revert back to your ‘true’ self anyway.

Learn to suck it up and move on, is the best answer I’ve got.

Vera: yes of course, but when you see more and more people adopting the same stance, you invariably end up wondering if it’s not you who’s fighting a losing battle, so to speak. :hmm:

]]> By: Rilla http://lianko.com/2008/04/22/intolerant-me/#comment-2468 Rilla Wed, 23 Apr 2008 09:16:25 +0000 http://lianko.com/?p=98#comment-2468 I don't think the Internet in particular has opened me up to any ideas... I think rather that it has "assisted" in me developing my inner bitch. But it does provide a nice way to see and hear wider views on controversial issues. e.g. the recent debate on Tibet vs China. Even though I'm still for Tibet on this, it's nice to have heard the different views from others of my own age. I don't think it's fair for others (like your aunt) to force their way of life on you. People have different values and necessarily behave differently. There will be those out there who stand with them, and others with you. So you spend time with peers around you who share the same values as you instead of feeling alone because you can't fit in with those who have conflicting values as yours. Some of my friends have also implicitly voiced their opinion on the lameness of my act in blogging. I just ignore them and share my blog with others who actually understand why I like blogging. :) <strong>Vera: oh she wasn't forcing anything on me. I was complaining about them not accepting me, and she claimed that I should be more accepting of others' criticism.</strong> I don’t think the Internet in particular has opened me up to any ideas… I think rather that it has “assisted” in me developing my inner bitch. But it does provide a nice way to see and hear wider views on controversial issues. e.g. the recent debate on Tibet vs China. Even though I’m still for Tibet on this, it’s nice to have heard the different views from others of my own age.

I don’t think it’s fair for others (like your aunt) to force their way of life on you. People have different values and necessarily behave differently. There will be those out there who stand with them, and others with you. So you spend time with peers around you who share the same values as you instead of feeling alone because you can’t fit in with those who have conflicting values as yours. Some of my friends have also implicitly voiced their opinion on the lameness of my act in blogging. I just ignore them and share my blog with others who actually understand why I like blogging. :)

Vera: oh she wasn’t forcing anything on me. I was complaining about them not accepting me, and she claimed that I should be more accepting of others’ criticism.

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