Such a Rebel
Wed, January 7, 2009
Filed under: Survival
For some weird reason, I never tend to do things the sensible way. Frequently enough, I realize I’m doing the exact opposite of it all. It’s not even because I want to stand out from the crowd, or any such thing. The minute I realize what I’m doing, I start fretting like no tomorrow, and lose sleep, and…
What did I do now, you ask? I moved away from home… smack dab in the middle of the holidays1. My parents and I are getting along fine; they didn’t kick me out. It just suddenly occurred to me that I have to move: as in RIGHT NOW. Was quite annoyed that things didn’t exactly happen during one day2.
In case you wonder how it all feels: well I still sleep better at my parents’ place3m and I worry about bills a lot…. But it’s certainly an experience. For example, there’s no one (else) I can be grumpy at, for waking me up at some unholy hour in the morning. After all, I set the alarm the myself. I obviously can’t blame myself; that’ll just depress me. :rolleye:
When do YOU do things opposite to others? Do you feel awkward doing it “the other way ’round”?
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1 not quite, but it sounds flashier this way
2 turns out I’m some sort of closet cleaning freak; mom’s so proud now
3 spent all Christmas Day and New Year’s Day doing just that *happy sigh* XD
Naturally, I dance to my own nonexistent music, so being a rebel/defiant in some people’s eyes is nothing new to me. Being forced to conform makes me do it even more.
You moving out of your parent’s house at that moment sounds like something I might do now.
Vera: yeah you do seem as the “I don’t care what I’ll do it” type of person. I kept agonizing about how “OK” it is to move during this period. I have some pretty religious neighbors here who keep to their customs. :suspicious:
I do things differently to others just to be bloody-minded and stubborn. It’s funny. :p
Vera: with the amount of people who try to “be you” it’s no wonder. So… we should then be prepared for a glittery pink layout at any time? XD
Sometimes when I’m with my friends in public, I act silly and they beg me to stop embarrassing them
I just like to see them squirm, and I always say “who cares what people think?” — but the truth is, they care 
I can understand why moving out would be such a rebellious thing where you live. It’s the same in my family; my older brother is planning on moving out sometime soonish and that’s just unheard of. You’re supposed to move out when you get married! :suspicious:
Vera: oh the moving out is not the rebellious part. It’s the moving out during holidays that is. All week everyone was saying “Bye! I’m going home to my parents”. Me, I’d be going AWAY from them.
Moving away only when you get married? Not sure about that. I mean, shouldn’t you be able to stand on your own by then? If you’ve never lived alone, it’s unlikely you can.
Last time while I was studying, people were going home to their parents while I refused to. I didn’t really have a good relationship with my parents and even now, it can be unstable at times.
I usually do things opposite to others when they try to force me to succumb to their ways. I don’t like being forced so to show my rebellion, I will just purposely go against them for the heck of it. People find it hard to believe that I can be as stubborn when it comes to this because more often than not, I am quite an easy-going person.
Another time when I will go against what the majority does is when it happens to be something which is against my principles.
Vera: Ah yes, I know the feeling. Whenever I’m forced to do something in a certain way (that I don’t agree with) I’m itching to just say “NOOOOO leave me beeeeee” XD
Where did you move to? Are you in an apartment?
I tend to do things oddly sometimes too… I usually make things more difficult because I just can’t seem to figure out the easy way everyone else does it… :hmm:
Vera: didn’t move far, actually. It’s a studio apartment, though I’m told it’s quite large compared to other studio apartments. Hehe, that reminds me of trying to brave my physics homework. I always tried to do them the hard way around
Ahhh…I would like to move out once I get myself a job and can afford supporting myself. :nod: (Although with the way the US economy is right now, it’s not so easy. I’m kind of nervous about everything at the moment XD)
And ehehehe…I sometimes do things opposite from what people tell me, either because I’m convinced my way is ermm…better or just because I can. XD
Vera: oh I’m nervous too… to the point of obsession (according to my mom). I’ve yet to pay my first set of bills (haven’t yet arrived) X(
I’m always ass-backwards lol. Especially when it comes to sleep. Most people do it at night..I, however, do it in the day. Of course it would be easier if Jeff were home at night, instead of working! :shake:
…plus, I have this weird way to eat Reese’s peanut butter cups…but I won’t go there.
Vera: oh sleeping during the day can be nice too. My parents have a shelley where I’m generally always so bored, but I always sleep extremely well there, during the day (not the night though XD )
I do the “rebel” (i.e. talking back, ignoring my mom when she tells me to do something, etc.) all the time, but not on purpose. It just comes naturally.
Vera: *nods* that’s called self respecting, you know? I’ve always done that. Can’t let her get used to good stuff; being spoiled is bad
Sometimes, it does seem like things suddenly hit you from nowhere and you make snap decisions to do something, right now. Happens to be occasionally too. (Only that I usually end up regretting it.) For you, I hope everything turns out fine. (:
Me, doing something the opposite? Well, I’m blatant about toilet humour while my friends suppress theirs. Like for instance – when they have to go to the washroom, they either exit quietly, or simply inform the rest softly that they need to visit the washroom. I am very much different – I’d jump up and start yelping ‘I NEED TO WEE-WEE (or POO POO)’, and make a big hoo-ha out of getting out of the room.
Heh.
P/S: And yes, I am finally centered!
Managed to take about a week off to clean up my code in early December!
Vera: haha, good on you! I’d be so mortified to do that. XD
“It just suddenly occurred to me that I have to move: as in RIGHT NOW. Was quite annoyed that things didn’t exactly happen during one day”
I totally know what you mean! Once I get excited about something, it has to happen immediately, even though sometime’s science itself prevents it =P
Congratulations on moving out! A part of me wants to move out, but I’m so comfortable at my parents’ that I don’t know what I want.
As for doing things the other way around… I’m not much of a rebel in anything, but my eating habits and the way I eat things is totally weird to other people. For example, I don’t like to have _any_ sauce. That includes tomato sauce (and cheese) in pizza. I tend to eat my sandwiches in layers, eating the top bun, the meat and then the bottom bun. It’s all very methodical and calculated.
Vera: I was quite comfortable at my parents’ place as well, but … “it suddenly occurred to me” XD
I used to dislike sauces a lot when I was a kid, actually I dislike most sauces too… aside the exotic ones (Chinese and Japanese) , much to my parents’ eternal exasperation.
I’m just naturally defiant and passive-aggressive, lol. If someone wants me to do something a certain way, I’ll do it the other way.
Also, I’m totally the same way with the instant gratification. If I get an idea in my head… like getting a new phone, or moving, or even cleaning the kitchen, I have to get it done right then and there. I’m not one to sit and mull about the pros and cons of a decision, or even wonder if I’m financially sound enough to afford the decision (which is probably why I’m always broke lol).
I hope living on your own is going well. Moving out is definitely not something I would do spontaneously. I feel like a lot of planning needs to be involved.
I tend to do the opposite of what someone expects if I don’t like that person. Usually this case occurs with teachers at school – if I think they’re morons, I will disregard their advice or instructions on assignments because I refuse to stoop to their level just because they believe their way is “best.”
Vera: well I can’t say I don’t still realize that I miss this or that right at the crucial point
I started my current uni course mid-year. Which means I do the more advanced component (semester2) of two subject courses before semester 1. I tend to struggle for half the year and ace the second half.
Vera: I did that too, had trouble bucking down and concentrate enough.